Finding Balance as a Writer

I don’t think I’m really qualified to write this post, even though it is our blog topic this week.

I’m what you might call an Type A Personality, maybe with a touch of OCD. When I am into something, I don’t take it lightly and I admit to being particularly driven about anything creative. If you read this blog, or know me, then you know I have very firm opinions about the way I like things to read, look, sound, etc. Writing is what I love to do, so I refuse to give anything less than everything to it. Which is why I work seven days a week, and have for as long as I can remember.

People sometimes ask me what my writing routine is like. My answer: every day, as much as possible.

Sure, there are days that feature nothing but brainstorming, or handling marketing items. But I wake up and commit to writing. Commit to thinking about the story. Commit to making whatever goal I’ve set for myself that day. Writing is my passion, but I also view it as a job.

Where does that leave family? Personal care—exercise, healthy diet, etc? And what about friends?

Well, family comes first. Period. When they need me, I’m there. And unless I’m really under the gun with a deadline, I make a point to spend quality time with them every day.

I admit that after that—after writing and family—I struggle with the rest. I try to eat healthfully and to fit time to run, but last night, for dinner, I had a bowl of mint-chip ice-cream while I sat in front of the T. V. and watched ARROW. (And you know what? It was glorious.)

And my friends—oh, my friends! I have the best friends in the world because after I disappear into the writing cave for a few months as I revise, or draft, they understand, and welcome me back. I really don't think I'd even have friends if I hadn't stumbled across some amazing people in my life.

Balance is tricky, especially when you hold a pursuit as deeply in your heart as I do writing. All you can do is your best. Oh, and find great friends.

If you want to check out a great post on this topic, head over to Jessica Spotswood's blog.


I think discipline is key to making progress with writing, but you have to take it easy on yourself sometimes. Mint chip ice cream and Arrow nights are necessary for sanity! :) Inevitably, one area of your life will always be neglected, so do what you can. I skipped the gym yesterday to finish a contest critique. I feel like a schlub but there's only so much time in the world. Tomorrow is a new day!

Thanks for your thoughts :)

I just found out about Arrow and now I'm dying to see it.

Right now I'm a huge fan of multitasking. With a newborn, edits and a 3yr old, if I can't do two things at once I'm toast.

Finding balance is tricky because, I think, it's an elusive goal. We just have to do the best we can. Lately I haven't been doing well enough (maybe too much ice cream and awesome series television) but I know I'll find my way back.

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