Sharing my work is probably the part I fear most about being a writer. Meeting a deadline, therefore, is both a time of great anxiety, followed eventually by relief.
The process usually goes like this:
Me: I'm going to do it. I'm going to send it.
Husband: Good. Do it! It's ready!
Me: No, it's not. But I have to hit send anyway.
Husband: All right! Then do it! Just hit send. You'll have another revision after this one.
Me: Do you think so?
Me: All right. I'm going to send it.
Repeat the above a few times, until I'm so worried I'm going to miss my deadline that I just push that blasted button and send the email.
THEN. Oh, then.
Here's what I've discovered is really weird: I don't just automatically relax. I'm usually on an adrenaline and caffeine and stress and sleep-deprivation high, so I'll answer emails, work on something else, work work work, when it's finally FINALLY time to NOT work. Why is that? It's so odd. The feeling is like I'm on a treadmill and I don't know how to get off.
One time, I hit send at three in the afternoon, worked for a while longer, went for a run, did a grocery store run, came home and made two dinners (one for the following night, too.) I was buzzing. I am usually a machine on the days I hit send.
I've developed a few strategies to come down of that hitting-send high, with the primary objective of relaxing:
1 - Make plans for afterward - Nothing fancy. But meeting a friend for a walk or coffee will get your mind off the manuscript and ensure that you're not still sitting in front of your computer hours afterward.
2 - Move - Walk. Run. Ride a bike. Swim. Whatever. It's the best way for me to work out some of the adrenaline.
3 - Celebrate - Whether you feel like you did everything the manuscript needs or not isn't really relevant. You hit a deadline. You met a milestone. And you busted your ass, probably for a good long while. That's worth celebrating. So open a bottle of wine. Or get some champagne cake, like Katy does. Basically, reward yourself.
So that's what I do after I hit send. What about you guys?